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It really is possible to change — to improve one’s self, to increase self-control. It’s a wonderfully empowering experience to feel yourself conquer a problem — to feel yourself able to exert self-control, conquer bad habits and improve your experience of life.
Are you hoping to beat stress, control anger, improve your self esteem, or learn to be decisive? Do you want to be the life and soul of the party, or have a quiet charisma that draws people to you? Maybe there’s something in you preventing you from making money. Whatever self improvement you want, it is certainly possible.
It was Henry David Thoreau said “I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of a man to elevate his life by a conscious endeavour”
The process of inner change requires inner work. It is not enough to read, you have to practice what you read, and this needs time and effort. There is no such thing as instant self improvement.
You’re unique, and your self improvement goals won’t be the same as others, but whatever you would like to change, with determination you will succeed in doing so.
July 10th, 2007
Do you remember what sexuality meant before HBO’s ground breaking TV sitcom “Sex In The City”?
After six successful seasons running from 1998-2004 a new female social voice has emerged. Today women’s sexuality is an ” OKAY” topic open for discussion.
To remind you, talking about women’s sexual health sexuality prior to 1998 was still very much taboo. Today even the adult film and toy industry attracts the attention of highly respectable Wall Street money.
This redefinition, revolution, women’s lib2 or whatever you want to call s just one social construct that has split the nation in half. Liberals cheer the social gestation of sex , as the conservative right decree the movement as another exploitation of the female form.
The arguments misses the point and no side is taken here. This movement has been brewing underground for more than 40 years.
The ladies of Sex In The City just put the approval spotlight on the matter. Eve Ensler’s The Vagina Monologues and a host of women sexuality focused media presentations finally abolished (almost) the “Leave It To Beaver” world of female sexual repression.
Women’s sexual health is the ability to enjoy a lifetime of sexuality through each and every decade of her life. New scientific research and and surveys reveal new definition of sexuality for both men and women.
Today women can enjoy the freedom to discover the essential health factors of sexual success with her own voice!
So how do you define sexual success? Read about the new definition of womens sexual health at my women’s health site where we talk about the hard to talk about health issues.
July 7th, 2007
Ok, so this is part 2 of the previous introductory article I wrote. I finished by mentioning that in order to get used to interacting with women, you should practice saying “hi” to random people in, say a mall. This is helpful for when you are out at a real social event, such as a party or out with friends at a bar or a club.
When you first enter the club or party, you should first scan the room to see if you can find any women you are interested in. Get near to her when you get the chance and initiate the conversation with a question. Usually, any question will do - it can be something you notice about her or even the place you are at right then. Once the conversation gets going, keep talking if you like her.
There are certain things you must consider before going out though. If you don’t take care of these key points, it won’t matter how good you are at attrcting women because all women will be put off by you.
What are these key points then?
* Keep clean. Shower before you go out, especially after doing any physical exercise or falling face-down into some dog poop.
* keep yourself groomed. Generally, women prefer guys who shave, or keep their facial hair neatly trimmed.
* Smell good. A good scent has the same effect on women as a feminine scent has on us guys. It’s a turn on! But don’t over-do it. A squirt on the wrists, the back of the neck and behind the ears is enough.
* Keep your hands and nails clean. Make sure your nails are cut.
* Keep hair clean and in control. Short hair is usually better than long hair.
* Keep your clothes clean. Pick a suitable style and make sure the colors match. As a rule, your shoes and belt should be the same color.
These are all appearance-related factors. Besides having these points in check, here are some other important points you should remember and put into practice.
* Eye contact. This is something alot of shy guys don’t do. And by not doing so, the woman subconsciously realizes that you are of lower status. This kills attraction instantly. This doesn’t mean you should keep constant eye contact, as this can be kind of freaky. However, most of your conversation should involve eye contact. This lets her know you’re not afraid to talk directly to her, and keeps the attraction going.
If you wear a shirt or a tie that matches one of the colors in your eyes (the eyes consist of many shades of color), you will notice how it attracts more people to you.
* Humor. Use a bit of wit in your conversation with women. Just don’t let your wit hurt other people by putting them down. Not even yourself for that matter.
Also, when a woman is talking with you, listen to what she is saying. Women like a guy who can reflect back on what they have said to them.
* Life and career goals. Women want a guy who is independent and can take care of them, even if she is successful herself. Set and meet your own personal goals in life.
* Attitude. Be positive. It makes a real big difference. Don’t blame others for your own failures or other negative things, even if they are to blame. Confidence is key to attraction, and women find this confidence and positivity very sexy.
Figure out what your strenghts are, and work on improving them so they stand out. Know what your weaknesses are, but don’t emphasise them.
Women - and this is especially true for really attractive ones - get attention from guys all the time. Try to visualize and understand what an attractive womans day is like when she is approached again and again by guys with the same lines and same character.
In other words, don’t be scared of approaching a woman, but at the same time be different from every other guy that has approached her. Don’t kiss her ass just because she was born attractive.
Don’t be boring like all the other men. Be confident when you approach, and don’t back down out of an approach. A normal conversation is all it takes for the most part, as well as strong eye contact.
When a woman is really beautiful, it can make you nervous, but try not to be intimidated by her beauty. She’s just human after all and would appreciate you treating her as one.
This means that you should be more interested in who she is, her personality, rather than her beauty. What makes her more special than any other woman?
Try to find out who she is, what her goals in life are, what she enjoys doing. Be interested by these qualities instead.
These tips will help you get ahead of the game and know what most men out there don’t know. Now go and make use of them.
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June 19th, 2007
FACT: If you create more attraction inside of a woman than is created by the guy she is currently with, then the chances of her getting with you are very high.
Still, it is up to the woman whether or not she would rather be with you or with the guy she is currently with, and this can depend on factors such as what she wants out of this and also what you have to offer. However, something you should keep in mind is that if any particular woman is able to leave her current “boyfriend” for you, then she is just as likely to leave you for some other guy who creates more attraction inside of her than you do.
You must remember that in order to attract and seduce women who are already in relationships, the same attraction rules apply as with single women. Many guys feel that there’s something special you must in order to attract women who are in relationships. Not true! Of course, there are always exceptions and they really are exceptions for reasons totally out of your control.
This article is aimed at guys who are new to the rules of attraction when it comes to women. In order to seduce women, it requires some knowledge of certain mechanisms and rules that have been tried and tested by many “dating experts”.
If you are new to the study of attraction, then this is definitely for you.
Pay attention and try to understand that some of the things you’ll read here will be completely new to you. You may have friends who always have dates whilst you wait and wait and have no success. You may even feel lonely because of this. When you go out, you may feel insecure, shy and very self-conscious about how you act and talk to other people, especially when talking to women.
I remember feeling that way a while back. I used to hate going to bars or out with a group of friends to parties and the like. And sure, I’d see girls who seemed to show me some interest, but I just did not know what to do. And eventually, the party would be over, or the girl would have left, and I used to be angry at myself for not being able to step up.
The first steps you should take if you are seriously interested in getting this part of your life handled include getting out more and socializing more. If you are out there in the field, you get a feel for how this whole thing works. You may even find yourself observing how other people interact, and to what level their interaction goes. This helps you get a feel for what works and what doesn’t.
Make plans with your friends, and stick to them. If you make arrangements like this, you are less likely to bail on them. One technique that is commonly used, and one that I myself have used in order to help me feel more comfortable interacting with people, is going to a mall and talking to random people. A simple “hi” will do wonders for your confidence.
What you’ll find is that people aren’t so scary to talk after all. Most are nice people, and will smile back and say hi, or even stop and chat to you! You could even go one step further and ask a default question to everyone you say hi to. This will help you talk for the sake of talking, with nothing expected in return, other than a pleasant interaction and as such, more experience under your belt.
You may even use this method when you’re out somewhere with friends or at a party. All it takes is a simple “hi” to begin with, and as you get more confident and comfortable interacting with people, you can ask a question that will open them for further interaction.
If you feel you can’t dive right into this by initiating a conversation with women, try it with men first. Then work your way up to speaking with women. There are some key things to remember about women though.
I will discuss these key points in a future article, where I will also go over some vital steps that you must take when meeting a woman you want to approach and seduce.
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June 17th, 2007
Getting a divorce is always a painful decision because it involves the emotions and lives of two or more persons. It is also one of the most complex legal processes that a person may encounter in his/her lifetime. This painful situation may arise in anyone’s life, and it is always better to be acquainted with the basic terminology. Fort Worth has a number of leading legal firms and divorce attorneys who can help you through the entire process of getting a divorce.
If you are from Fort Worth and looking for a reliable and competent divorce attorney, you need not look far. They are available in multitudes. You can check for them either online or get information about their location through the local yellow pages. Divorce attorneys are specialized attorneys and can help you out with one of the most complex legal procedures a person could ever encounter. It is an extremely emotionally draining process. It is for this very reason that you should be selective in hiring the services of a well-honed divorce attorney. He or she should be mature enough to give you a patient hearing, especially hearing your side of the story and also let you know from time to time, during the entire process, about the progress of the case. When it comes to experienced divorce attorneys, you can find them a dime a dozen in Fort Worth. They are found all through the region. You can verify their credentials from your friends or family members who may have sought their services in the past. This would give you a fair idea about the capabilities of a particular divorce attorney.
Right from the filing the petition for divorce, through the interim or temporary order, to the community property, spousal property, equitable support and child support, you have to understand the terminology in some depth. To get a fair understanding of these complex laws and their application in Fort Worth, you can go through detailed articles available online. You can also have a detailed discussion with your neighborhood divorce attorney, and get to know some of the processes involved.
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June 16th, 2007
For many years the process of divorce was a process heavily biased toward women - to balance out the fact that it was a man’s world. Traditionally, women were considered the weaker sex. They were the sex to be protected and protected they were when it came to divorce. But the laws have changed. In divorce, women no longer have all the power. Now, divorce is more even playing field and men don’t automatically lose everything.
Men used to tell similar stories. Those stories sounded hauntingly familiar. “She took the house, she took the car, and then she took my children away.” In many courts across the country women were given preference in custody and property decisions. This principle was also directed embedded in the divorce law of many states. In Florida and many other states, there was a principle known as the “Tender Years Doctrine.” In short, the law said the place for young children was with their mom. A man’s right to become the custodial parent was trampled on and completely ignored. Possession of the marital home usually went to the parent that received the children. Right off the bat, the initial position of the courts was to award the house and children to the mom. Though women did benefit from this system the effect was to short change 50% of the population – men.
Societal developments in the past few decades have remedied some of the power imbalances between the sexes in divorce cases. One of the changes was the elimination of the “Tender Years Doctrine.” In Florida, as with many states, custody laws were rewritten to become gender neutral. Judges were directed to consider certain factors in a custody determination. But those factors were rewritten to exclude gender preferences. In Florida, child custody law became completely balanced and men gained an equal right to ask for the minor children in their divorce action.
Because of this change more men are successfully seeking custody of their children. With custody of the children, possession of the marital home does not automatically go to the mom. At the moment, women still get custody of the children the majority of the time. But that will change over time now that the law is more even handed. In divorce, women no longer have all the power. Now, divorce is more even playing field and men don’t automatically lose everything.
Howard Iken is a Divorce Attorney. He represents divorce clients in Tampa, Clearwater, St. Petersburg, New Port Richey, Pinellas, Pasco, and Hernando County, Florida. You can contact Howard Iken at 1-888-4My-Divorce (1-888-469-3486) or visit Pasco-Hernando-Pinellas-Hillsborough Divorce More information on the steps in a divorce can be found at Steps in a Divorce in Tampa Bay
June 15th, 2007
My mentor, a brilliant Ph.D, with a powerful
marriage counseling ministry recently shared 2
shocking statistics with me:
1. Out of every 10 Christians, 7 of them
have been sexually abused in the dream.
2. 10 out of 10 women whose marriages are not
working regularly have sex in the dream.
(He should know. He handled 21,000 cases in
his ministry last year).
This is a rather difficult topic to discuss,
but the good news is that a few obscure
scriptures in the Bible hold the key to
total freedom, so you can sleep better
at night with your spouse.
What To Do
Because of these revelations, his prayer
team has created 6 earthquake prayer points.
Those who have prayed them confirm:
- it’s effective in pulling back marriages
from the brink of disaster
- it mends broken marriages
- it brings back honey, love and joy
into relationships
Caution
My mentor cautions that anyone who wants to pray
them must be genuinely born again, and must NOT
be cheating on their spouse.
He also advises that best result comes if
you fast during the prayers. To go full
throttle, you start the prayers around midnight
(There’s a strong biblical reason for this, which
is explained in detail in the latest version of
my popular ebook, “Prayer Cookbook for Busy People.”)
The scripture to stand on is Matt.19:6.
Spread The Joy
If you happen to know any Christian friend whose
marriage is not all that it could be, do them a favor -
give them these 3 prayer points for a start.
1. Every marine witchcraft that has introduced
spirit wife/husband in my dreams, be roasted
by fire in the name of Jesus.
2. Every agent of marine witchcraft posing as my
husband/wife in the dream, be consumed by
fire in the name of Jesus.
3. Every agent of marine witchcraft physically
attached to my marriage to frustrate it,
die by fire in the name of Jesus.
The others (over 40 of them) are in the prayer
book. Go check it out at:
http://www.firesprings.com
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Be blessed!
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May 28th, 2007
There are many advantages to doing your own divorce. Three significant ones are: you’ll get a better divorce, you’ll save a lot of money, and you’ll be able to keep things simple.
Getting a good divorce
Studies show that active participation in your divorce is the single most important factor in getting a good divorce. “Good divorce” means such things as better compliance with agreements and orders after the divorce, less post-divorce conflict, less post-divorce litigation, more good will, and better co-parenting.
People who take an active role generally do much better emotionally and legally than those who try to avoid the work and responsibility for solving their divorce problems. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get help from an attorney–it means you should be actively involved, become informed about the rules and make your own decisions. Put yourself in charge of your case; run your own life.
Saving a Lot of Money
When a lawyer is in charge of your case, even simple, unopposed cases cost a lot, and if your case becomes stirred up through increased conflict, the cost goes even higher. Most lawyers collect a fairly stiff fee for doing even a simple uncontested divorce. They average anywhere from $500 to $5000 for doing a job that is quite simple and that is usually done by an underpaid secretary anyway.
Whether you pay the usual fee, or find a cut-rate deal, lawyers tend not to give you much time or information. Rarely, if ever, do you get to speak with the lawyer, and then only briefly. You almost always end up wondering what’s going on, but there is no one to talk to about it. You can save this aggravation, and save at least $500 to $1500 by doing it yourself, and probably much more. In some states, a simple divorce can cost anywhere from $2000 to $5000 per party who has retained an attorney, and a contested case can cost hundreds of thousands on each side.
Keeping it simple
Most people start off with a case that is either fairly simple or one that could probably become simple if it is handled right. Such cases don’t usually stay simple after an attorney is retained. Divorces tend to be fairly sensitive and it doesn’t take much to stir them up, but lawyers have a way of making almost anything more complicated, more stirred up, worse instead of better. This is because of the way lawyers are trained and the way the system works.
When one spouse gets an attorney, the other spouse is likely to get one too, and then the fun really begins. Two attorneys start off costing just double, but pretty soon they are writing letters, filing motions, and doing standard attorney-type things, just like they were taught. Now we have a contested case, more fees and charges, and a couple of very upset spouses.
In the end, you will still have to negotiate your settlement with your spouse. Over 90% of all cases settle without trial, but when lawyers are retained, settlement usually comes after the spouses are emotionally depleted and their bank accounts are exhausted. Why go through all that? If you do it entirely by yourself, or with the help of a carefully selected attorney who has not taken over your entire case, there’s a much better chance of keeping a simple case simple and of
reaching a settlement much earlier.
Copyright 2005 Ed Sherman
Ed Sherman is a family law attorney, divorce expert, and founder of Nolo Press. He started the self-help law movement in 1971 when he published the first edition of How to Do Your Own Divorce, and founded the paralegal industry in 1973. With more than a million books sold, Ed has saved the public billions of dollars in legal fees while making divorce go more smoothly and easily for millions of readers. You can order his books from http://www.nolodivorce.com or by calling (800) 464-5502.
May 23rd, 2007
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